Showing posts with label illness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label illness. Show all posts

Saturday, October 25, 2014

Walking Beside Me

My Friend has passed and is no longer in pain and will be reunited with her loved ones who have gone before her. I received the phone call shortly after posting to my blog yesterday. Her family was around her and her final days were peaceful and she was kept comfortable. Words elude me but my emotions are vast.


Sylvia lived a full 79 years of life filled with huge challenges. But, my greatest memory of her is that we "Always had FUN"! Even though we had different viewpoints on many aspects of life we "Just Got Each Other". There was never a time we couldn't share "our secrets" with each other. That kind of a friend does not come around very often.

My most recent vivid memory of our life experiences together was two years ago (2012) after her cancer diagnosis when I took her to the hospital (45 minute drive) for a routine diagnostic test that required light sedation. We needed to be at the hospital early and would not be able to leave until 5 to 6 PM. It was in the month of January during a year that this area experienced an unexpected heavy snow season. Anyway, after we arrived at the hospital and my friend was taken to the back by the nurse and I enjoyed "people watching" and reading a book.

I think it was about 2 PM when snow started to fall and I watched the parking lot and my car from the waiting room window. Soft fluffy white snow flakes were drifting down and the color of the cars and surrounding area was quickly turning white and whiter and whiter! For me, a little snow is fun. But, this was starting to look very daunting to me! Many of the patients were being discharged as their procedures were completed. The snow continued to fall without any interludes from the time of the first falling snow flake.

Now then, I am a California girl with absolutely NO experience driving in the snow. What to do?  Well, do what you have to do, the little voice in my head was saying. Through the years I have learned how to be quite independent out of necessity but this was a FIRST ONE FOR ME.

Walking through several inches of snow with only fair weather shoes I eventually got to my car. Using a scraper that was in my trunk I managed to scrape and scrape snow off of the car and get into the door and slowly, very slowly drive to the hospital discharge door and pick up my friend.

By now, the parking lot was clearing out and a lot of the hospital support staff had been advised to go home. The snow was continuing to get deeper and deeper and I had a horrible time getting out of the parking lot. There were no tire tracks to try to follow. Slip and slide was the name of the game!

We eventually make it to the highway but it took a long time with traffic jams and cars sliding all around. A couple cars made complete circles when their cars started to slide. The traffic signals were of no help! Oh, and I did not have snow tires or chains and most vehicles did not. I crept slowly along the highway like a snake watching as many cars were sliding into the embankments or onto the side of the road. NO SNOW PLOWS!

All seemed to be going along quite well even though my body was getting tenser and tenser. But my friend was able to snack on some banana nut bread that I baked the day before and brought for her because she had not had anything to eat all day because of the medical testing.

By now we were successfully driving slowly along on the two lane road and praying for strength. All of a sudden the road was quite icy and the truck in front of me slid into the snow berm and the truck behind me also. And, then me. After "trying to gather my wits" I made several attemps to get my car back on the road to no avail. By now, it would have been nice to have a restroom nearby to visit!

My friend and I continually talked positively to each other throughout the hours we were trying to get home.

And, tomorrow I will be able to finish this story about ME AND MY FRIEND!

Tell someone special you love them!

Mary


Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Look What I Have ~ A New Camera

I am so happy to have a new camera. I have wanted one for quite some time and this is a nice one. It has features that I am going to have to go to the manual to learn how to use. Usually, I can figure out the buttons and nobs by trial and error. But, not this time. I have had it for quite some time and still have not had time to work with it. The camera is a belated Birthday present from MSM. It was certainly worth the wait! For the past six months I have been using MSM's camera. I am so happy to have this camera. And, I expect to feel that way in six months!




We were planning on spending Thanksgiving with MSM's family in San Jose which is about a 2-1/2 hour drive from here. Pet sitters have been arranged for one night away. Unfortunately, we just received a call telling us about a serious illness in the family. The mother of MSM's daughter-in-law went into the hospital about two weeks ago for a hip replacement and expecting to be in the hospital only a few days. Very sadly, she has developed complications not limited to but including an infection that have become life threatening. She has already been moved to a different hospital that has treatment facilities that weren't available at the first hospital. The most frightening fact is that there is talk about removing her hip! I have never heard about doing that. It sounds horrible! Perhaps, there is more to the story that wasn't told to us, like hip replacement. In addition, she has suffered from MS for many years and has been using a walker. We pray for a full recovery.

Also, today, MSM has a medical appointment with a urologist because of a slightly elevated lab work. He feels great with absolutely no symptoms. He is going, "kicking all the way", only because his doctor made the referral. I say, "be safe, not sorry".

And, then there is me ~ ~ ~ just "putting one foot in front of the other".  After, the first of the year, I will work on seeing some Pain Specialists. Yes, it has been a challenging month for many of us.

Hope your Thanksgiving week is going Beautifully. The seasonal colors are exquisite.

I have so many things to be thankful for this Thanksgiving season, mostly for the wonderful relationship with MSM. He has become everything I could possible wish for in my life. The past year has been one of profound personal growth, compassion and love.


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Some Additional Special Photos

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Mother's Day 2012

Mother's Day 2012

Happy Family (2014)

Happy Family (2014)
Grandma Pride

Valentine's Day 2013

Valentine's Day 2013

High School (1957) Friends Of Mine On The Left Live In New York and We Met In Canada In 2013

High School (1957) Friends Of Mine On The Left Live In New York and We Met In Canada In 2013

Bud Mietz

Bud Mietz
1928 - 2014